There is a women’s Christian group that meets at 7pm on Tuesdays at one of the coffeehouses I hang out at. They usually gather round a large meeting table near the table I tend to favor, so I’ll often find myself listening in on their discussions—Not because I’m interested or nosy so much as because I possess the unfortunate inability to tune anything out.
Six to ten women attend this meeting, bringing a thin blue book with a title something to do with living a wholesome life as a Christian woman. Each week they discuss what they’ve read and share stories about what’s going on in their lives, often giving one another advice on how to deal with this difficulty or that personal trauma. Considering all the personality types involved, it seems like they form a great emotional support group for one another.
About two weeks ago one of the women was visibly despondent throughout the discussion, so toward the end, after each of them had shared and discussed something from her week, they gently ganged up on her and got her to open up. She broke down into shuddering sobs as she attempted to explain what was going on with her. Turns out she was feeling overwhelmed and depressed by drama and chaos created by some of her close friends. Stuff that perhaps fewer men than women would understand or relate to.
This poem builds on some thoughts that formed in my head as they urged her to draw a line and demand that her friends respect certain boundaries.
The Rarest Gem
Peace of mind is a rare and precious gem,
shot through with deep unblemished shades
of autumn skies that never fade,
each facet polished to a cool aplomb.
It waits within the deepest, darkest clime
to be unearthed from rock and clay
and crafted in the light of day
by empathy and wisdom till it gleams.
So we must choose our friends with utmost care,
for there are those with whom it can’t be trusted,
who treat this jewel with disdain,
who scuff it up with gall and shame
until it’s rendered void of all its luster
and every thought is muddied with despair.
This is my 9th Petrarchan sonnet.